I talk to lots of young men and teen boys about anger as a therapist. I also talk to my son regularly and as his father I noticed my conversations with him are different than how I approach anger in my practice. So, to find a middle ground I am taking a different approach and […]
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You Really Think You Got Control of This?
Lets talk control people! This is an area of our lives that generates so many emotions that are rooted in the illusion of its existence. What do I mean by that? Well in reality we often have little to zero control in our lives. So let’s first define control, according to Merriam Webster control means […]
PILLARS OF VIRTUE… WHERE DO I START?
Let’s take a minute to break down a few things about the Human Condition to assist with all the previous blog posts I have written so far. First, we are multidimensional creatures who need a strong base to stand strong. I like to break these into four unique pillars, if one is lacking I will […]
A BETTER WAY TO MEASURE YOUR LIFE! A LITTLE TOUGH LOVE FROM ME!
I often see patients or hear friends, family, fellow therapists and sometimes myself complain about results of something. A recent personal example would be frustrations with a new iPhone where a solid month of me spending hundreds of hours on the phone with tech support at AT&T as well as Apple was just creating more […]
LET’S TALK ROUTINES!
I hear a lot of billionaires, millionaires and extremely successful (financially) people give tons of advice on this routine or that. Do this every morning and be a rockstar, do this every night and be a champion. I have news for you, I could care less what they say, I am not those people and […]
HOW AND WHY TO SHOP THERAPISTS
Therapy can be a daunting task, but if you are in a position in your life to seek therapy (and I believe everyone could benefit from it especially therapists) consider this as you embark on this life changing and potentially lifesaving journey. First, know what you expect to achieve in therapy and clearly express that […]
PUSH BACK AGAINST DEPRESSION TODAY!
If you’re reading this, then you or someone you love struggles with depression. Depression can be an overwhelming feeling and millions of people suffer from this disorder every year. While that is a sad situation it means you are not alone! Here are 6 ways to push back on the feelings and lethargy related to […]
No School like Old School
In our last blog we spoke about “mistake making” and the term “irrational” came up a few times. So I thought I would break this down a bit to provide you with an understanding of what I mean. First let’s discuss the “3 musts” and then talk about where it comes from and how it […]
You’re a Kill Joy
That’s a catchy title, I know. Really what is happening is you’re allowing your thoughts to kill your production, your enjoyment, your satisfaction, and your gratitude. We allow thoughts to ruin relationships, fun events, good memories and everything in between. Now you may be saying to yourself “No I don’t, I have great memories”, […]
Stare Down Anxiety and Win this Time! – click here
In our last blog, we briefly touched on anxiety in relation to stress, that was to compare them. This time let’s really look at anxiety and why it affects so many of us. Anxiety is the real or imagined worry about a problem. I know this sounds too simplistic, but that’s because society made it […]